Nowadays, 50% of all US marriages get divorced. Statistics show that the average divorce happens after 15 years of marriage. An interesting fact is that more women than men start the divorce. Very rarely do both partner agree to get divorced. Most of the marriages fail when both partners are between 40 and 45 years old. But why is it, that a couple who once was so in love and so happy ends up in front of a divorce judge?
Experts and psychologists say that the main reason for divorces is getting married in the first place. Who would have thought? But it’s actually true. People don’t take marriage as serious as they did 50 years ago. Nowadays it is very easy to get married, see if it works out, and get divorced if it doesn’t. Marriage and it’s promises are not the values they used to be.
The second reason is the inability of solving problems. Instead of solving the actual problem, many husbands and wives try to escape and run away from them. They act as if the problems doesn’t exist and make it even worse.
The third reason is a lack of interest. Sad but true, many marriages fail because partners don’t show enough interest for each other, their hobbies, their friends, and their needs.
The fourth reason are dogmatists. People that always want to be right, no matter what the situation is. This leads to constant arguments and fights. If one person always wants to be right, at some point the other one has no chance but to resign and give up debating. That leads to frustration.
Number five is an unfulfilling sex life. There are people who harmonize with each other on a sexual level and others who don’t. Unfortunately, many couples find out that they don’t match when it’s already too late.
The sixth reason why couples get divorced is money. Money can be the cause for a break up for many different reasons: one partner earns more than the other and the one who earns less feels dependent and less worthy; one partner loves the other one only for the money and they split up; there isn’t any money at all to pay all the bills and the problem begins to take over and dominate their lives.
The seventh reason is a lack of communication. Divorce judges reported that many marriages and partnerships fail because couples don’t talk to each other. They keep their problems for themselves and they constantly misunderstand each other because none of them is speaking their mind.
The eighth reason for a divorce is unhappiness in a relationship and the misconception that it will all get better once married and having children.
Number nine: Cheating. There is not much explanation to add, is there?
And last but not least Number 10: Different views of too many things. If couples disagree on too many issues in life it’s hard to make a relationship between them work.
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