The Risks of a Beautiful or Rich partner

Society and media are stuffing the belief in our heads that women have to be thin and beautiful, that men have to be millionaires and that only if you belong to one of the two groups you will find a partner that belongs to the other. That is how it is: beautiful women mingle with millionaires. Although this reality might be far from what some of us “normal” people experience, it is still very real to upper class and elite society members. The decision, what partner to choose is not based on love or mutual interests but on income, social status, and the outer appearance. Seeing and being seen, that is what counts. 

However, relationships based on beauty or wealth also bears many risks. A man who chooses a woman because of her beauty must be aware, that while she is young, she might loose interest and find someone even better looking than him. She might as well be courted by many other men, making her promising offers and giving her the outlook of an even more prosperous life. She might decide to leave, or the attempts of other men might cause jealousy and arguments and lead to unhappiness in the relationship. Once the woman reaches a certain age, beauty is also likely to fade, so the man should better make sure to like something else about her than only her looks. 

The same happens to a woman who chooses a millionaire as her partner. There will be plenty of other women interested in him and trying to catch him, so she can never be 100% if he will be cheating on her at some point. In difficult times, or when she looses her youth he might leave her for another female partner. One that is younger and more beautiful. 

Even if the relationship based on beauty and wealth turns out to work, the urge for true happiness will knock from the inside. Quiet at first but then louder and louder until the need for someone who truly understands them and loves them for what they are becomes unbearable. Many partnerships and marriages end up in disasters, with partners cheating on each other and starting to hate each other, but because of their social status they will stay together and be cursed until the end of their lives. 

No matter what the main purpose of getting together with someone is, be it beauty, money or just a strong attraction, it is absolutely crucial to make sure that there is more to the partnership than just that. We are lucky to live in a part of the world where there is a freedom of choice, which means we have all the time in the world to get to know our potential future partner as good as we can before we marry or buy a house with them. And the better we know each other, the higher the chances for a long lasting and happy relationship.