Finding True Love is Not Impossible You Just Gotta Know How

Everybody knows it. Lucky ones because they see it among their friends or family members, unlucky ones, because they experience it themselves: continuously failing relationships. What lies behind this phenomenon? Some people simply seem to be unable to establish successful relationships or maybe they are just very very unlucky. A riddle without solution so it seems but in fact, it is nothing more than a vicious circle. The secret to break this circle and to figure out the riddle is simple: Unlucky singles have to change the characteristics they are attracted by. 

If we experience things we do not like or do not want anymore over and over again, no matter how often we change partners, it is obvious that we do not learn from previous experiences. The important thing is to understand why certain things happen again. The answer might as well lie inside our own character, which means we act in a certain way so that the result is attracting that same kind of people every time. As long as we do not change the things that attract unwanted partners, we will not stop attracting unwanted partners. That’s it! 

The solution might be to say no to things we didn’t dare to say no to before, or to speak our mind openly and 100% honestly. Many people don’t love themselves enough to make other people love them like they deserve to be loved, or like they imagine to be loved. It all starts with ourselves, the more aware we are of the things that we actually want and the more we fully support our views, the higher the chance to find a partner that matches and that makes us happy. 

Knowing yourself and knowing exactly what you want and look for in a partner is the first step towards a healthy relationship. But fair enough, it all sounds easier said than done, right? Because once the butterflies begin to fly in our tummies we are hardly able to control ourselves nor are our decisions reliable. That’s the important phase where we should really try our best not to be blinded by feelings or illusions. We have to take it slow, enjoy it of course, but at the same time stay alert and question our choice critically. If our head doesn’t respond to our attempts to stay cool, we can always rely on our intuition. Take a look in the mirror and ask yourself the question: “Am I 100% happy? Does everything about him/her feel 100% right? Or are there things I am unsure about and that cause me a strange feeling somewhere deep inside of me?” The aim is not to loose trust in other people, but to trust people with a healthy portion of caution. Because who we are attracted to biologically or on a great night out, doesn’t necessarily have to be our Romeo or Juliet but if we lend ourselves a bigger ear, lots of our problems will be solved at a glance.

What Do Women Look for in Their Future Partner or Husband?

Hunting women – a mysterious species to men. No obvious logic behind the choice of their prey and no recognizable reasons for the results of their hunt, considered as successful by the women themselves for equally incomprehensible reasons. And it is no wonder that men are getting slightly confused here. In the stone edge, women chose men who are strong, able to make fire, bring food home, keep the woman safe and make her lots of babies. Later on in human history, women picked mainly handsome guys they can adore and admire, real gentlemen with good manners and witty talks. In times of war, it was important that the men set the rules and bring home some money. In the 1960s, men need to be rebels and rockers to pull some girls, with long hair and – even better – with nothing more than a guitar in their hands. In the 1970s, every girl wanted to be independent and guys who are great in bed. Later on, in the 1980s and 90s the urban cowboy became fashionable, a free spirited scalawag who broke the women’s hearts, but apparently that was sexy. Since the start of the 20th century men have to be all in one, so it seems: not boring, a good listener, a great lover, an amazing father and a high earner. Damn, it seems hard to fit into the pattern. 

But men, no worries, no need to panic or lose hope right now. It is a fact that from a biological point of view, women tend to search for men who provide a good heritage for their offspring, but guys, you are built to provide that, so there is no reason to despair. As this happens subconsciously, there is plenty more criteria women tick off their list when looking for a partner. What man they are looking for depends primarily on their experiences in their past. In the course of their life and from their parents and friends they learned what they want and do not want in a man. Most of the women opt for men who come from a similar background with a similar educational level and a more or less similar income and they look for characteristics that correspond to their own such as humor, intelligence, social and emotional abilities, hobbies, dreams, imaginations about the future, favorite animals, favorite vacation destinations and so on. They also take a close look at the men’s family and friends because they learned that these are great indicators of what kind of person he is. So careful guys, when introducing your new girlfriend make your buddies look nice and make your mother stop talking about you peeing in bed when you were little. 

All in all one can say that like attracts like and the chemicals simply must be right. The rest will develop and turn out as it is supposed to. So relax and be yourself! 

What Do Men Look for in Their Future Partner or Wife?

All our girlfriends are getting married, pregnant, built a house, mother is asking when we will finally give birth to her grandchild... All these nerve-racking things are made even worse by the fact that there is no male partner in sight. And nobody can say we are not trying, we are trying really hard, but the last relationship is already countless years ago and all the guys we meet are not exactly mind-blowing, in fact, that could not be further from the truth. Why do all our friends seem to be lucky to have found their perfect match while we sit here and wonder why it is not happening for us? The one big question that arises is: What do men look for in their future partner/wife? 

We all know that love always goes along with a lot of luck and then there are the chemicals and the butterflies and all that …but there is more to finding a matching partner. It is a combination of many factors. More than anything men want a girl who is not too moody or bitchy, or at least not everyday. Experience told them that moody and bitchy women are seriously hard to handle and even harder to satisfy. Men do not analyze as much as women do so most of the times, they do not even know what is going on in her head. Meanwhile, she builds up thoughts inside until she explodes and surprises the poor clueless boyfriend with things she is unhappy about. A fight comes up and he has no chance, he will definitely be the loser, no matter what he says to defend himself. Men want laid-back women who are happy with themselves, content with their lives and bodies and  who don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. Guys want their lives to be as easy as possible and they only want to deal with stuff that’s actually relevant. 

Also, men are looking for a good sex partner. Sex is an essential part of each relationship for men. And it’s not them being Don Juan or them treating us like sex objects, it’s actually not their fault, it lies in their genes. And girls, let’s be honest here, isn’t a relationship with a fulfilled bedroom life the best that could happen to us? Women  should keep themselves and their men happy and satisfied. Spicing up the relationship with some new and exciting ideas is a good recipe for that.

Men also seek for a mother figure, although they wouldn’t necessarily admit that. But men can be little boys sometimes who need some proper taking care of. They love it and women love it, too. This is also a sign for men that she is likely to be a good mother for his future children. 

But what individual men are really looking for remains their secret, guess we have to rely on the chemicals and butterflies eventually. 

What is the Logic Behind Female Orgasms?

The sexual climax of women has been proven not to be necessary for fertilization, so what is the point of it, actually? Researchers have been dealing with this question for centuries and found out some interesting facts. According to international studies, it plays an important role for the female’s partner search. Subconsciously, women choose their partners based on various criteria such as outer appearance, body proportions, educational level, potential to be a father and income. A frequent female orgasm therefore signalizes her that she made an excellent choice. It is also proven, that the more prominent the man’s positive criteria, the more often their female partner has orgasms. 

From a biological point of view, it is not entirely confirmed if the female orgasm might help sperm cells to get to the uterus quicker. Or whether the orgasm should encourage women to have more sex for the purpose of reproduction. Other ideas include the theory that the mutual orgasm in a long-term partnership binds the partners to each other on a psychological level and make a split up more unlikely. Some even say that the orgasm is a way for the woman to have influence on a potential pregnancy. Nevertheless, the fact that a female orgasm is not guaranteed to happen speaks against these presumptions. That brings up the theory that, equal to the men’s nipples, female orgasms don’t have any evolutionary purpose at all or are simply a left over of the first stage of development of the embryo where the genders are formed.

British researchers addressed this complex matter once again and made the groundbreaking discovery, that from all the different and various criteria that make a woman come, money is the most crucial. Women with rich partners have more orgasms. According to these studies, the orgasm enables women therefore to distinguish between the qualities of men. 

The results may also be a good excuse for cheating, claiming that when a long-term relationship gets boring and sex life decreases, the woman goes hunting for more men that are likely to provide some quality genetic material, proven by frequent orgasms. Subconsciously, of course! 

All homosexual women, feminists and hedonists will now argue that the female sexual climax has no purpose but that of pure joy and satisfaction. One thing that speaks for this theory is the existence of the clitoris. Many women need additional clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, yet they get pregnant anyway, with our without the orgasm. So it is quiet possible, that the clitoris serves only one purpose and that’s to bring her pleasure and excitement. And why shouldn’t that be the case? Researchers always focus their studies on the conformity of women and men, that means the body part that has a certain function in the man’s body must have an according counterpart in the woman’s body. But the above-mentioned male nipples prove this theory wrong. Men’s nipples don’t have a function, whereas the female nipples feed their babies. Summary: There mustn’t always be a logic behind everything.